Personality types men avoid
Single women: do you sometimes find yourself wondering why guys don’t ask you out? Or why your first or second dates are never followed by another?
We recently told you some of the possible reasons a man would disappear on you after a few dates. If you’ll notice, these are his issues, not yours. A male FN reader posted a comment on the article saying, “It takes two to tango,” and he’s probably right. So this time, we’re presenting the other side of the coin: female personality types that make men go poof.
We can never truly understand the dynamics of men’s criteria for selecting the women they go after. But it may help to know the types of women they certainly wouldn’t want to date. Here are five types of women that men avoid at all cost, according to dating website eHarmony.com:
1. The Flirty-Bird. Men love a woman who flirts: she is fun, charming, and outgoing. She shows interest right away, which makes life easier for men. Yet the article differentiates between a situational flirt and a serial flirt; the latter is what men avoid. A serial flirt giggles, touches, and tosses her hair at everyone: his best friend, her boss, his brother. It shows the guy she needs constant attention and perhaps has major self-esteem issues. This kind of behavior immediately gets old and tiring for a man.
2. The Commitment-Phile. This woman puts a lot of pressure on the man to get serious after only a few dates or months of dating. She makes a man wonder if she’s really in love with him or with the idea of a happily-ever-after—no matter who she is with. It also indicates self-centeredness on her part.
3. The Cling-On. She is needy and can’t go anywhere or do anything without her man by her side. She gets herself involved in his activities and affairs, calls more than ten times a day, and goes berserk each time she fails to receive a reply to a call or text message asking his whereabouts. She stifles her man and doesn’t give him a chance to miss her. He will soon realize she is too high-maintenance, and eventually run out of energy and patience for her demands and obvious lack of trust.
4. The Party Girl. She seems the life of the party: someone who’s fun to be around, a little wild and lighthearted. She dances well and gives really witty remarks. A man would naturally be intrigued to spend a little more time with her. But once he does, he realizes she lives to party and wonders if she’ll ever be her same outgoing self when the party is over and it’s time to go. And we all know that people who become too dependent on alcohol and other mind-altering substances for fun are not exactly the best choices for serious relationship partners.
5. The Windbag. She never knows when to shut up! She seems self-absorbed, and never tires of talking about herself and her opinions. She also has Drama-Queen tendencies, which is never good. She can make a guy feel like he doesn’t exist since she doesn’t need him to participate in the conversation anyway.
Of course there are exceptions to these personality types, and it doesn’t mean that you’re doomed to singlehood forever if one or more of these personality types seem to describe you. These are just illustrations of how you should balance out your personality to be more approachable and beautiful inside out—and to complement any man you will, at one point, find yourself interested in. Keep your mind open—and your options, too.
We recently told you some of the possible reasons a man would disappear on you after a few dates. If you’ll notice, these are his issues, not yours. A male FN reader posted a comment on the article saying, “It takes two to tango,” and he’s probably right. So this time, we’re presenting the other side of the coin: female personality types that make men go poof.
We can never truly understand the dynamics of men’s criteria for selecting the women they go after. But it may help to know the types of women they certainly wouldn’t want to date. Here are five types of women that men avoid at all cost, according to dating website eHarmony.com:
1. The Flirty-Bird. Men love a woman who flirts: she is fun, charming, and outgoing. She shows interest right away, which makes life easier for men. Yet the article differentiates between a situational flirt and a serial flirt; the latter is what men avoid. A serial flirt giggles, touches, and tosses her hair at everyone: his best friend, her boss, his brother. It shows the guy she needs constant attention and perhaps has major self-esteem issues. This kind of behavior immediately gets old and tiring for a man.
2. The Commitment-Phile. This woman puts a lot of pressure on the man to get serious after only a few dates or months of dating. She makes a man wonder if she’s really in love with him or with the idea of a happily-ever-after—no matter who she is with. It also indicates self-centeredness on her part.
3. The Cling-On. She is needy and can’t go anywhere or do anything without her man by her side. She gets herself involved in his activities and affairs, calls more than ten times a day, and goes berserk each time she fails to receive a reply to a call or text message asking his whereabouts. She stifles her man and doesn’t give him a chance to miss her. He will soon realize she is too high-maintenance, and eventually run out of energy and patience for her demands and obvious lack of trust.
4. The Party Girl. She seems the life of the party: someone who’s fun to be around, a little wild and lighthearted. She dances well and gives really witty remarks. A man would naturally be intrigued to spend a little more time with her. But once he does, he realizes she lives to party and wonders if she’ll ever be her same outgoing self when the party is over and it’s time to go. And we all know that people who become too dependent on alcohol and other mind-altering substances for fun are not exactly the best choices for serious relationship partners.
5. The Windbag. She never knows when to shut up! She seems self-absorbed, and never tires of talking about herself and her opinions. She also has Drama-Queen tendencies, which is never good. She can make a guy feel like he doesn’t exist since she doesn’t need him to participate in the conversation anyway.
Of course there are exceptions to these personality types, and it doesn’t mean that you’re doomed to singlehood forever if one or more of these personality types seem to describe you. These are just illustrations of how you should balance out your personality to be more approachable and beautiful inside out—and to complement any man you will, at one point, find yourself interested in. Keep your mind open—and your options, too.
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